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So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

1 Corinthians 13:13

Love remains.

When this life ends, love remains. We will no longer need faith or hope because we will reside in God’s perfect love for eternity. As we close out two weeks focused on becoming a better lover of God and people, remember, “the greatest of these is love.”

Wherever life takes you, fly on the wings of love. Before you speak or act, ask yourself, “Am I doing this in love?” If not, don’t say the words or do the actions. Couching everything in love means stopping and thinking before doing anything else. Slowing down and considering the situation will help us have healthier relationships and better outcomes.

“And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30- 31

Jesus summarized the commandments into four words: love God and love others. We can only accomplish our divine purpose by remaining bonded to the Lord. If you genuinely want to become a better lover of Christ, spend time with Him daily. Make a relationship with Jesus a top priority over all others, even spouses and kids. If you prioritize God, it will affect every other relationship you have for the better.

As Benjamin Franklin said, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.”[1] Determine today to plan to love. Take what you’ve learned and turn it into a lifestyle of love. Find ways every day to do one act of love toward someone else. Maybe give grace, overlook an offense, and spend time with someone who needs company—maybe cook a meal for your friends or family. You can find many ways to love people when looking for them.

Respond in love in every circumstance. Sometimes, the most loving thing to do means doing nothing; other times, you must roll your sleeves up and get to work. The situations God brings into our lives become opportunities to grow and become more like Jesus, who exemplified a lifestyle of love.

In Christ, we can do all things. We can love the unlovable, forgive the unforgivable, and become new creations, one day at a time.

Receive the love God offers, renew yourself daily by spending time with Jesus, and share it. Turn the world upside down with love, just like Jesus did!

Love Challenge:

Keep the love going. Decide to do one loving act a day, every day. Change the world by sharing God’s unconditional, for everyone, love.

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[1] https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/460142-if-you-fail-to-plan-you-are-planning-to-fail

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For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

1 Corinthians 13:12

Access granted.

Stop hiding from God. Give the Lord access to every part of you, the good, bad, and ugly. Allowing Jesus to shed His unconditional love into the dark places of your soul will give you life to the fullest on earth. As you begin to exercise grace for yourself, hope blossoms, and life changes.

“Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10

When the disciples asked Jesus how we should pray, He responded with the Lord’s prayer. The verse requests God’s kingdom to come, His will done on earth as in heaven. Defined by love, we will discover the essence of God’s kingdom as we accept and share the Lord’s affection with others.

We can experience heaven on earth by allowing God’s Spirit to take up residency within us and giving Him full access to our souls. Working from the inside out, Jesus guides and directs us. No longer responding to the world around us from a fleshly perspective, instead letting God’s Spirit guide us.

Life changes as we journey with God, letting Him know us fully. Taking control of our thoughts and focusing them on the Lord will cause different reactions. Before responding, we will ask God what He thinks, living for the applause of One instead of many.

To live life to the fullest, we must submit it to Christ. Opening our hearts and souls to God takes intention. But if we remind ourselves that God already knows our worst sin and loves us anyway, confessing to Jesus becomes easier. Nothing will stop the Lord from loving us. God created us, knows everything about us, and loves us unconditionally. Jesus came to seal the deal; faith in Him forever binds us to our Maker.

Nothing you do will separate you from God’s love. Once you place your faith in Jesus, you become His. Let Christ know you fully; don’t hold anything back. Live life to the fullest, embracing the good and bad, trusting God to use it all for His glory.

Allowing God to know us fully brings freedom into our lives. We can accept ourselves because the Lord does. God knows them all, whatever temptations we face, struggles we endure, and secrets we keep. Walking with us, the Lord guides us one day at a time, revealing truths and helping us live life to the fullest.

Love Challenge:

Let God know you fully today. Open the depths of your heart to the Maker and let His light shine into it, bathing every crevice with His grace.

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When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

1 Corinthians 13:11

Letting go.

Growing up means letting go. We must release the childish ways to become mature. No more tantrums of uncontrollable emotions; we must learn to take the reins on our feelings, not letting them control us.

In my book, “Three Word Prayers for Everyday Living,”[1] I talked about my prayer strategy to help me put away childish ways. Dealing with anger issues that caused my husband not to want to marry me, I turned to God for help. “Grace, not Anger,” became my coping mechanism for the powerful emotion, also known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:

“Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a structured, goal-oriented type of psychotherapy (talk therapy).

Mental health professionals, including psychologists, therapists, and counselors, use it to treat or manage mental health conditions and emotional concerns. It’s one of the most common and best-studied forms of psychotherapy.”[2]

As a child, anger became an ingrained response to adversity. When an unexpected event disrupted my day, anger rose its ugly head. Only when my husband pointed it out during our dating years did I realize the toll of my emotions on relationships. But life changed once I invited God into the situation and applied constant prayer to my dilemma. Every time I felt anger taking control, I used prayer to retrain my mind and control my emotions.

Over a decade later, anger no longer controls me. Writing “Three Words,” therapy, and constant prayer have helped me mature into a new creation in Christ. I still feel strong emotions, but I’ve learned to take control of them through prayer.

We must put our childish ways behind us to become more like Christ. No more outbursts or childish actions. Instead of reasoning like a child, we must grow in our thinking, becoming more discerning and analytical.

Most of all, we must accept that the world doesn’t revolve around us, and not everything will go our way. When we do, we open the door to maturity, leaving behind our childish ways.

Ask God to help you identify areas of childishness in your life. Find ways to help you overcome childish responses and become more mature in Christ. All things become possible with God, even letting go of childish ways.

Love Challenge:

Take control of your reactions today. Find a scripture, develop a prayer strategy, and let go of childish ways by taking captive your thoughts and controlling your emotions.

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[1] https://www.amazon.com/Three-Word-Prayers-Everyday-Living/dp/B09KF44SQY

[2] https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/21208-cognitive-behavioral-therapy-cbt

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But when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away.

1 Corinthians 13:10

Exercising discernment.

Maturing in Christ means exercising discernment, the ability to judge well. We must let go of things that don’t build God’s Kingdom. The partial will pass away, and the misconceptions and misinterpretations will not stand the test of time. But God’s perfect word will.

Reading social media, I saw a post from a friend taking scripture out of context. Immediately, I wanted to engage in the conversation, but instead, I kept scrolling. Why? Because I knew engaging would only cause an argument and create distance in the relationship. Instead, I waited for an opportunity to talk in person, not wanting my comments taken out of context.

Perfection doesn’t exist on earth. No one perfectly understands all the scriptures or every situation on earth. Why bad things happen to good people remains unanswered until we reach heaven. But in the meantime, we can trust God’s moving us forward on our journey, using everything for the good of those who believe and trust in Him.

When we reach heaven, the trials of this world will pass away, and we will know perfection. Comments taken out of context will no longer concern us. We won’t have to pay bills or go to unfulfilling jobs. No more sleepless nights worrying about loved ones. Instead, we will live in perfect peace with our Maker for eternity.

When frustration with worldly matters overtakes you, remind yourself that the partial passes away. What seems insufferable ends; perfection awaits us in our heavenly home. The trials of life help us grow more like Christ as we apply His principles to them. Our crowns wait for us in heaven and will last forever.

Hold the things of this world loosely, reminding yourself of the temporary nature of life on earth. Embrace the promise of perfection that awaits us in eternity. When faced with difficult situations, ask yourself, will this matter a year from now? Five years from now? Choose wisely by keeping your eyes on Jesus, making His priorities yours.

Perfection comes when God calls us home. Until then, we must remember that now we know in part, then we will know in full.

Love Challenge:

Use God’s filter to discern what you can do to build the Kingdom today and what you need to let go. Don’t let temporary problems distract you from eternal tasks.

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For we know in part and we prophesy in part,

1 Corinthians 13:9

Realistic awareness.

As Christ’s followers, we understand spiritual things from a human perspective. Imperfect: we have a limited knowledge of faith, but once we reach heaven, it will become perfect. Prophesy suffers from interpretation; discerning selfish motives from Godly messages challenges the human heart. Many prophesies people have told me contained bias and didn’t come to fruition. 

Know-it-alls don’t exist. No one on Earth understands everything, no matter what they say. George Washington Carver had a realistic awareness of his limitations:

“I asked the Great Creator what the universe was made for.
‘Ask for something more in keeping with that little mind of yours,’ He replied.
‘What was man made for?’
‘Little man, you still want to know too much. Cut down the extent of your request and improve the intent.'” [1]

Carver changed his request, asking God to teach him about the peanut. Discovering over 300 uses for the peanut, Carver didn’t know everything, but he knew a lot about the one thing. 

Use caution when you talk to someone who has an answer for everything. God didn’t give us minds that can comprehend the universe’s secrets. But the Lord did give us limited knowledge about certain things. Relying on God to reveal information to us when needed causes us to follow Him closely. Accepting our limited knowledge helps us seek the One with all the answers.

Asking the Lord to help us understand love will allow us to exercise it. Like with patience, we must practice love to begin knowing it. As a verb, love comes with motion, not stagnant.

When the person cuts us off in traffic, we must choose not to respond in anger. During conflicts with friends and family, we must not make the argument about winning and losing but about restoration. Developing a close relationship with the Lord means spending intentional time with Him.  Acts of love look different, but all equal love. 

Realistic awareness of ourselves means accepting our limitations and seeking the One without limits.

Love Challenge:

Ask God for opportunities to practice love today. Wait expectantly for His answer and obey quickly when He does.

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[1] https://mbcpathway.com/2021/02/26/peanut-sized-faith-george-washington-carver/

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Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 

1 Corinthians 13:8

Love never ends.

Unlike prophecies, tongues, and knowledge, love doesn’t have an ending. Once we reach heaven, we will know everything, no longer needing communication through prophecy and tongues. Basking in God’s perfect love, we’ll have all we need.

When my nephew died, a piece of my heart died with him, but not the love we shared. Almost ten years later, I still feel the warmth from our last hug on Earth. Memories of moments together still bring me joy. Knowing we will one day meet again in heaven comforts me; the love we shared hasn’t lessened; it doesn’t die.

Living a lifestyle of love has no regrets. Over Christmas, I watched “Love Actually.”  One of my favorite scenes occurs near the end when young Sam races to tell his crush he loves her. Speeding through the airport, dodging security, Sam’s romantic gesture leaves him with no regrets. A smile fills his face as he rounds the corner, and Joanna surprises him with a kiss.

They won’t know how we feel if we don’t share our love for others. Small acts of kindness convey huge messages. God sent Jesus in a manger, with no room at the inn, to show the world His love for it. 

“Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house.” Matthew 5:15

Love needs sharing. We can’t hide what God did for us under a basket; we must show it to the world, letting His light flow through us. Not once do I regret the things I did that showed Cody how much I loved him. Every hug, every ride to school, every movie, every trip conveyed to my nephew how much he meant to me. Our days on Earth have a limit; we shouldn’t waste any of them. Take every opportunity to shine your light to the world, one act of love at a time.

One act of love at a time, we change the world. Jesus turned the culture upside down with His love; we can do the same when we follow Him. Introducing people to the Savior introduces them to unconditional love and grace they can find nowhere else.

Love Challenge:

Tell someone you love them today. Go out of your way to ensure they know how much you care for them. Let your light shine brightly!

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Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

1 Corinthians 13:7

Trusting and optimistic.

Love covers others’ faults, believes, and hopes for the best, enduring until the end. Where I always jump to the worst-case scenario, love does the opposite. When faced with a decision, a love-filled conclusion will come up with the best-case scenario, believing it true until proven false.

On a recent camping trip, Ron and I sat by the fire, watching the traffic go by. When a white muscle car with dark, tinted windows stopped, it raised my suspicions.

“They’re up to no good,” I said to Ron.

“You don’t know that,” he replied. After much debate, we concluded that the people had stopped to look at the view. Camping on a small lake, you could see the glistening water through the bare trees. Cold-weather camping, no leaves blocking the view, the car perched on top of a small hill, giving it a bird’s eye view of the lake.

However, when we heard the rumbling engine a second time, I discarded the obvious, once again sure they had impure motivations. Laughing, Ron read the vanity license plate with a girl’s name, assuring me they just wanted to look at the water.

My human nature tends to think the worst instead of the best. I must change my natural tendencies to live a loving lifestyle. On my task list, I have a reminder, “Choose to believe the best about people!” When my mind starts down negative rabbit trails, I must coach myself to change my thinking.

Love does change us. Putting love into action requires us to think the best, not the worst. When life gets tough, we persevere, hoping for better things to come, enduring the fire, and knowing love always wins. Love, a verb, demands action both mentally and physically. We must first think of a loving response before we can act on it.

God knows we can change. As our Creator, the Lord knows our human instincts, but Jesus came to show us a different way. Instead of responding out of hatred, we can respond with love. Accepting Christ into our lives gives us new life, leaving the old ways behind and adopting Jesus’s thinking. Becoming more like the Savior will help us love more and distrust less.

Love Challenge:

Choose to think the best today. Instead of conforming to the world’s view, ask God to help you see people through His lens of love.

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It does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.

1 Corinthians 13:6

No record keeping.

Love has no part in wrongdoing, including keeping track of it.  When offenses occur, responding with grace and not recording it helps us move forward with love.  Rejoicing with truth and positive reinforcement helps promote better behavior.

Becoming a tennis coach, I learned to emphasize positive behavior.  When a student hits the ball well, tell them.  Accentuate the good traits they did to accomplish the task.  Ignore the bad strokes and highlight the best ones.  By emphasizing the right actions, the student learns what to do because of the praise received.  They know they get the desired results when they follow the swing path, finish high, and accelerate through the shot.  Repeating the behavior reinforces the outcome.

When we focus on the wrong things, it prevents us from loving.  Ruminating on an offense only makes it grow.  Letting wrongdoings go free us from the hurt and allows us to heal.  Whether or not the person changes, we can’t control. 

“And Jesus, looking at him, loved him and said to him, “You lack one thing: go, sell all that you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” Disheartened by the saying, he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.” Mark 10:21-22

When the rich young ruler asked Jesus what he needed to do to inherit eternal life, Jesus told him to sell everything and follow him, but the man couldn’t do that, so he went away sad.  Notice that the scripture tells us Jesus loved the young ruler.  Christ allowed the man to decide on his actions, not enabling the king. 

Jesus still loved the rich ruler, not wanting any to perish.  But love requires a choice, and like the young man, we don’t always make the right one.  Thankfully, God gives us more than one chance to do better.  Rejoicing with us when we make wise choices, allowing us to grow from our bad decisions, we become more like Christ as we consistently follow Him.

Like a student learning a tennis stroke, repetition of the proper movements leads to success.  Practicing grace, not keeping track of wrongs, but choosing to respond with love will lead to much rejoicing.  Record keeping only stunts growth, but letting go of offenses frees us to live fully.

Love   Challenge:

Get rid of the records.  Consciously choose to let go of past offenses, no longer keeping track of them.  Repeat as necessary.

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It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

1 Corinthians 13:5b

Flexible attitude.

Love doesn’t require its way. Flexible and adaptable, love doesn’t get irritated or resentful. Living a lifestyle of love demands letting go of personal desires. Unconditional love means no conditions of any kind. In other words, if people don’t meet our expectations, we love them anyway.

“Let’s give each other space to be different and live in harmony,” my yoga teacher said during a recent class. Learning to love others well means we give them room to do things their way, not ours. We can point someone in the right direction, but we can’t get mad if they don’t choose to go that way.

Unfortunately, I failed many times in this aspect of love. As a spoiled brat, I insisted on my way; shame fills me when I think of my behavior in my younger years. Getting irritated when things didn’t go my way, resenting people for not doing things like I thought, I’m guilty of it all.

“Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you. Romans 12:2 MSG

Living in a world that promotes “me-first” thinking, insisting on your way fits the cultural norm. Following Jesus promotes counter-cultural behavior because you come last; loving God and others first fulfills the Great Commandment. When we begin to live like Christ, He transforms our lives from the inside out. Changing our thinking and becoming more like Jesus will help us have grace for others, not insisting on our way but adopting a flexible attitude that puts love first.

Putting love into action will cause you to become less demanding, more accepting, and appreciative of people. Love grows, multiplying as it takes root in your heart, blossoming and filling you with hope for future things. As you share unconditional affection with others, they will begin to bloom. And on and on it goes, love in motion, lighting the world for all.

Love Challenge:

Practice a flexible attitude today with people. When things don’t go as expected, exemplify grace by not demanding your way, and resist getting irritated and resentful by focusing your thoughts on God’s unconditional love for you.

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It is not arrogant or rude.

1 Corinthians 13:4b-5a

Humble attitude.

Love has no arrogance or rudeness. No ego, just humility. For love to exist, one must choose it; we can’t force it upon someone. Nothing builds a community faster than unconditional love expressed to the members. More effective than any other weapon, love disarms hatred and grows unity. 

When traveling, Ron and I enjoy visiting other churches. We believe in regular church attendance, whether in or out of town.   As a result, we’ve attended churches all over the country. Most have greeters standing at the door, welcoming us into the building. Typically, people mill around in the hallway, waiting for the service to begin, catching up with friends. Usually, no one notices us once we pass the greeters. The churches that love well leave a lasting impression.

Heart Cry Christian Fellowship Church in Naples, NY, loved well. A small body of believers, they treated us as family. After greeting us at the door, the pastor’s daughter gave me a gift bag with a handmade potholder and information about their organization. During prayer time, one of the parishioners prayed for us and our tenth anniversary, the reason for the trip.

“God bless Ron and Beth’s 10th anniversary, give them many more years together, and bless their vacation.”

Tears came to my eyes when Tom, our new friend, prayed for us. Overcome with emotion, I will never forget their love and kindness. Love leaves lasting impressions; small actions leave big imprints.

As followers of Christ, we have the same calling card Jesus did: love. Wherever we go, we should leave a wake of unconditional love in our path. With practice, living a lifestyle of love becomes second nature.

“If you want a kind 16-year-old, teach a 6-year-old kindness and give them ten years to practice.” Jon Acuff[1]

Teach children how to love, and they will become loving adults. No matter the age, we can all learn how to love and become experts by practicing daily. Love requires humility. We must think of ourselves less and others more. Swelled heads and aggressive behavior leave nothing but pain behind. Humble hearts and kind actions leave an imprint on the heart that doesn’t die.

Love Challenge:

Think of someone in your life who always puts your needs above theirs. Do something special for them and thank them for always loving you.

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[1] https://www.instagram.com/jonacuff/reel/C0bpoddN9D-/