Honest Reflections

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Found in the infamous “Wife of Noble Character” section of Proverbs, the book of wisdom closes with 21 verses on how to serve your husband well. Noble means virtuous, worthy, or capable. Found only in Proverbs and Ruth, the word describes a woman of strong character, and someone who brings good to all who know her.

A dear friend of mine has six children whom I adore. She amazes me as she runs her household with love and care. The first time I babysat for them, I felt nervous, but I needn’t have worried. In preparation for our time together, she had the kids create a list of things to do. We played games, watched a movie, and built a fort; the time passed quickly.

My friend runs her household well, and her husband has complete trust in her, knowing she has a plan for whatever comes their way. From doing chores and completing homework to having ample time to play, she schedules it all into their day, starting each morning with devotions to God and ending their nights with bedtime prayers.

Maintaining a smooth household helps build trust. Each of us has a different life; since we don’t have children, we have a quiet household. Ron and I share the daily tasks. My husband knows that if I say I’ll do something, it gets done. He depends on me to take care of certain things, and because I’ve proven myself trustworthy to him time and again, Ron has confidence in me.

Find ways to bring good, not harm, to people. Starting at home, build up your family by blessing them with your efforts. Maintain a peaceful house through strategic planning. The Lord doesn’t expect perfection, but He will bless your efforts, and your family will reap the rewards of your work.

Journal Question:

How would you describe a woman of noble character?

In what ways can you bless your family today?

How can you bring good, not harm, to those you love?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for giving us an example of a noble woman in scripture. Please help us exemplify her as we go through our days, bringing good, not harm, to those we love.

IJNIP. Amen

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If you can’t keep your mouth shut, clap your hand over it! Oh, how many times I wished I had taken this advice and avoided the pitfalls of thoughtless words. When we exalt ourselves, playing the fool, it never ends well. Pride always results in a fall, one way or another.

My mom had a butter churn. Tall, brown wood formed a circle, with metal bands at the top, middle, and bottom holding it together. A smooth, round lid with a hole in the middle covered the top. The dasher, a long wooden pole with four small wood boards attached at the bottom, fit through the hole. Moving the dasher up and down in the churn separated the yellow butterfat from the milkfat. Taking anywhere from 20 to 55 minutes to produce the final product, churning takes work.

When we repeatedly exalt ourselves, it stirs up strife. At dinner with friends, they talked about a person who constantly shares how much money they have. Each statement churns like butter, creating bitter feelings and causing strife. Unaware of the irritation their words cause, this person doesn’t stop playing the fool.

At some point, the listener will react, conflict will ensue, and the relationship will suffer. As Christ’s followers, we must guard our mouths, using our words to build people up rather than tear them down. If we can’t say anything nice, we shouldn’t say anything at all.

Before you speak, ask yourself, “Would you want someone saying that to you?” Think about how the other person will receive your words, and if it doesn’t uplift and encourage, clap your hand over your mouth and keep it shut.

Journal Question:

When has self-exaltation gotten you into trouble?

What comes to mind when you think of words like churning butter?

How can you speak uplifting and encouraging words today?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for giving us hands to help us keep our mouths shut. As we move through our day, let us use only uplifting and encouraging words. Help us honor You in all we do.

IJNIP. Amen

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Adding or subtracting words to scripture tempts anyone. When I’m writing a devotional, remaining true to the word takes a lot of soul searching. Understanding the meanings of words helps decipher the verse’s message.

In my women’s Bible study, we use the HEAR method: Highlight, Explain, Apply, and Respond. Reading through the New Testament together, we read five chapters a week. Each day, we highlight one verse, then explain, apply, and respond to it. After we finish our study, we text the group a picture of our notes.

The more we study scripture, the more we will begin to understand it. People take God’s word out of context all the time. For example, 1 Timothy 6:10 gets misinterpreted:

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.”

People think money causes the problem. However, love of money creates the issue because it becomes an idol. Anything we put before God needs to go; the Lord makes it clear that He must come first.

Studying God’s word with a group of women holds me accountable not to add or subtract from the verses. Scripture’s truth doesn’t always come easy, holding a mirror up to our sinful ways. When we allow the Savior to refine us, He always does it with love.

To live abundantly in Christ, we must carefully study His word, asking Him to help us understand it. God reveals truth to us as we develop our relationship with Him. With the Almighty’s guidance, we can mine the jewels found in His word. Each day, when we open the scriptures, God speaks to us through them. We don’t need to add or subtract anything; the Lord says it all perfectly.

Journal Question:

When have you wanted to add or subtract words to something in scripture?

How have you seen scripture taken out of context?

Who helps you study scripture and interpret it?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for giving us Your word to guide and direct us. Please help us not add or subtract anything from it, but study scripture, allowing You to reveal its truth to us.

IJNIP. Amen

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Security comes from trusting God, not man. When we place our faith in humans, they will disappoint and hurt us. But when we give our all to the Savior, we will live an abundant life we can’t imagine. When fear of man starts to control your actions, it becomes a snare, trapping you.

Streaming a series, one of the characters stepped into a bear trap, the steel teeth clamping shut over her boot. Only a skilled hunter could open the contraption and free her foot. Until her friend got help, they didn’t know what to do. Thankfully, they quickly found a forest ranger who rescued them from their dilemma.

We need rescuing from our fears, and only God can do it. Repeatedly in the Bible, the Lord tells us to fear not; He has our back. To live in His protection, we must obey and have reverential fear of the Savior, meaning a deep respect for His ways over ours. The more we obey the Creator, the more we will live in His peace and joy, gaining strength from our relationship with God.

“Every one of us, then, will have to give an account to God.”

Romans 14:12 GNT

Look around you; every person you see will stand before the Savior and give an account of their actions. We will all answer the Creator. For those who place their trust in Jesus, they have nothing to fear. But those who put their faith in themselves or others have something to fear. Jesus has the only empty tomb; all other “gods” fill their burial spots.

As with all things in life, you have a choice of whom you fear: God or man. No one can decide for you. Each day requires a fresh decision. If you put the Lord first, He will lead the way. But if you fear man more than God, you will find yourself in a trap.

Journal Question:

How have people made you fearful?

How would you define “Fear of the Lord?”

How has faith in Jesus freed you from the snare of man’s opinion?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for teaching us where to place our fear. Please help us live for nail-scarred hands, not public opinion. Strengthen us for the journey and help us give You the awe and respect You deserve.

IJNIP. Amen

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Watching “Death by Lightning,” a movie about President Garfield’s assassination, Senator Conkling from New York had immense pride. Opposing the newly elected President’s politics, the New York Senator schemed and manipulated to undermine the cabinet appointees, eventually resigning to make a point and highlight his power.

However, Conkling’s plan backfired when he failed to win re-election, falling from grace for his overly confident agenda and never serving in the role again. Where once he had power, the Senator had none.

President Garfield, portrayed as a humble man of God, served only three months before dying. But he influenced his Vice President, Chester Arthur, a former Conkling ally who became his rival because of his love and respect for Garfield. Humility brought honor to the President; pride brought the Senator down. Where Garfield strived to remain loyal to his Savior and the people, Conkling served himself first, and as a result, fell hard.

Pride blinds us to truth. Feeling satisfaction from our achievements disregards the Lord’s participation in them. God gave us the breath in our lungs; we didn’t. Any opportunities we have, the Creator opened the door for them. When we keep our eyes on Jesus, we’ll give Him the credit He deserves.

God promotes those who honor and serve Him. As the scriptures say, take the lowest seat at the table, let the Lord decide when you should move up. But if we place ourselves at the seat of honor, God unseats us and puts us in our place.

Lead with humility by centering your life on Christ. God will give you honor for your loyalty; the prideful will fall as they worship themselves instead of the Savior. Focus your heart on Jesus, let Him lead the way, promoting you in His time, not yours.

Journal Question:

When has pride caused you to fall?

How has God promoted you?

How can you center your heart on Jesus today?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for keeping us humble when we focus our eyes on Christ. Please reveal any areas of pride we need to address and help us honor and serve You in all we do.

IJNIP. Amen

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Hardened hearts cause themselves pain. Rebellious and stubborn, people refuse to submit to God and continually separate themselves from the Creator. When you begin to recognize people’s hardness towards the Lord, you will start to spot it everywhere. Even Christ’s followers can have places where they have stiffened against God.

“I don’t want my heart to become a battlefield between hate and love.” Rebecca, Amish Grace.[1]

Detailing the tragic school shooting on Oct. 2, 2006, that killed five young girls, the movie Amish Grace tells the story. Immediately after the incident, the Amish families forgave the killer, offered love and support to his family, and stunned the world with their actions. One mother, struggling with the loss of her daughter, had a hard time forgiving; her heart hardened to the thought of pardoning the gunman. Rebecca, who also lost a daughter, understood why they needed to forgive. They had a choice to foster hatred or love, and to grow love, she had to forgive.

Our hearts become the battlefield of our emotions. We must choose to keep them soft or let them harden. The pains of life often cause us to build walls, but if we align ourselves with the Savior, He will help us keep the soil soft. Asking the Lord to keep your heart pliable will help you keep it tender.

When you feel pain, take it to the cross. Follow the Amish’s example and forgive quickly, trusting God’s plan in whatever the situation, even the most horrific ones. Life on earth doesn’t last long; we will spend far longer in glory than we do in the miseries of this world. Hold onto the hope of eternity with the Savior, give your heart to Him, and He will help you keep it soft.

Tremble before the Savior and experience the glory of His presence. Keep your heart soft and stay out of trouble’s way.

Journal Question:

How have you experienced a hardened heart?

In what ways do love and hate battle in your soul?

What can you do to keep your heart soft today?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for teaching us about hardened hearts. As we travel through this world, please keep our hearts soft and tuned to You. We love You, Lord, use us as You will.

IJNIP. Amen

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[1] https://www.netflix.com/title/70143375

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“You don’t listen to me, why should I listen to you?”

People tend not to listen. I do it to Ron, he does it to me, and we all do it to God. The closer the relationship, the better we get at not listening. From my perspective, we take people for granted, assume we know what they will say, or become so engaged in our own world that we ignore everyone else. Whatever the reason, when people don’t listen to us, we don’t listen to them.

And when we don’t listen to the Lord, He turns a deaf ear towards us. Simple but complex, we can use lying as an example. When we believe a lie of the world, such as “You do you,” we shift our perspective away from God. In our efforts to “do you,” our self-involvement causes us to ignore the Creator’s commands. But then we need something only the Savior can provide, so we turn to Him in prayer, expecting quick results. But God doesn’t listen, because we didn’t listen to Him. As Christ’s followers, we live with priorities different from our own. Joy comes from living by JOY: Jesus, Others, Yourself.

When we start listening to God, He bends down to hear our prayers (Psalm 116:2). If you begin the conversation with, “Lord, I’m sorry I’ve been so self-involved,” God wants to hear what comes next. As we begin to live by the Almighty’s precepts, we put Him and others before ourselves, swimming upstream in a world of “you do you.”

If you want God to hear your prayers, listen to His commands. Live by the Savior’s teachings and example and discover an intimate relationship with the Lord as He leans in to hear every word you say.

Journal Question:

When have you felt like God doesn’t hear your prayers?

What area of your life do you need to start listening to the Lord?

How would you describe a relationship with God?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for listening to our prayers. Please help us listen to You, apply Your teachings to our lives, and become more like Jesus. Let us glorify You in all we do.

IJNIP. Amen

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“Hurry up! Let’s get outta here!”

Seven words you hear in any robber-type movie. As the thieves loot the bank, and the cops draw near, one of the crew inevitably yells, “Let’s get outta here!” I’m sure I’ve said it myself when doing something I know I shouldn’t do.

On the other hand, when the main character takes a stand, based on truth, entire movies come to life as they boldly pursue righteousness. Erin Brokovich, the 2000 drama, comes to mind. A single mother, working for a lawyer, discovers groundwater contamination caused by the Pacific Gas and Electric Company, which resulted in cancerous tumors for numerous victims. Pursuing truth, Erin never backed down, standing up for those affected and finding justice through the legal system.

When someone knowingly sins, they try to run away from the guilt and consequences of their actions. But pursuing truth gives us boldness, because at its core, we find Christ.

“Actually, I was born and came into the world to testify to the truth. All who love the truth recognize that what I say is true.”

John 18:37

Not everyone loves, nor searches for truth. They spend their lives fleeing from their actions. But for those who seek truth, they will find Jesus, and in Him, we have all we need. God guides us, helping us do the next right thing. As we learn to follow the Savior, we’ll become bolder as we discover our purpose by loving God and others.

Live for nail-scarred hands and experience the boldness that comes from righteous living, doing the next right thing. Watch the wicked flee as you stand firm, secure in Christ’s love and His purpose for you.

Journal Question:

When have you fled from wrongdoing?

In what ways does Christ give you boldness?

How would you define righteous living?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for giving us directions for living. Please help us obey Your commands and become bolder in our mission as we give our lives to You.

IJNIP. Amen

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How someone responds to praise reveals their character. Refinement happens when someone achieves accolades. Saul and David give us an example of different responses.

“As they danced, they sang: ‘Saul has slain his thousands, and David his tens of thousands.”

1 Samuel 18:7

When the women praised David higher than Saul, the king became angry that they only credited him with thousands, and the shepherd boy with tens of thousands. Saul’s anger gave the devil a foothold, and he threw a spear at David in rage, but the younger man eluded it twice.

Saul’s hatred of David continued to grow; 1 Samuel chapters 18 and 19 tell their tale. Repeatedly, the king tries to kill David, never succeeding. However, when the young warrior has the chance to get revenge on his tormentor, David doesn’t. Finding Saul relieving himself in a cave, David cuts off a piece of the king’s robe, later showing it to him. The warrior wanted his ruler to know that he could have killed him, but didn’t.

Their relationship and responses to praise illustrate the difference between the two men’s characters. One became envious and enraged, the other humble and faithful. How someone handles praise reveals much about their personality and who they truly serve.

When someone praises you, give the glory to God, as David did. Stay humble by reminding yourself that victory came through the Lord; without Him, you won’t succeed. David won his battles because of the Lord’s presence in them, and when people tried to praise him, God’s warrior gave the glory to his Creator.

Journal Question:

Who handled praise well in your life?

Who has become prideful because of praise?

How have you handled praise in your life?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for showing us the difference in how to handle praise. Please help us remain humble and focused on You, no matter what the situation. Help us love You and others well, giving all the glory to You.

IJNIP. Amen

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“If they’re worth bragging about, someone else will do it.” Mom’s words still bring me a smile as I recall the look on her face and body language that accompanied them.. Talking about someone who constantly self-promoted her kids, it drove my mother crazy. Mainly because the praise garnered had no basis, the co-dependent relationship and enabling only harmed her children, instead of helping them grow into adults.

At the time, I had never really thought about who should give praise to another. Since I’ve become a writer, I have a new appreciation for today’s verse. Not a fan of self-promotion, I find it difficult to talk about my books and work, which creates a dilemma: if I don’t advertise what I do, how will people know about it?

Wrestling through the topic with a spiritual mentor, she gave me wise advice. Jesus does for us what we can’t do for ourselves. As I prayed over her words, I gained clarity on what I should do for my promotion and what I should leave up to Jesus. When I leave things in God’s hands, it always works better.

Let others praise you, allowing Jesus to do for you what we can’t do for ourselves. Serve the Lord wholeheartedly, what you know to do, not for recognition, but for the Savior. Allow other people to express their appreciation, and ask God to keep you humble and hungry for more of Him.

The only applause we need comes from nail scarred hands. Jesus loves us so much that He died for us. What more praise do we want? In Christ, we have all we need to serve God by loving Him and others.

Journal Question:

When has someone’s self-praise aggravated you?

How have others praised you?

In what ways can you give someone else praise today?

Prayer:

Lord, thank You for teaching us about praise. Please help us let others do the praising, not doing it ourselves. And give us opportunities to praise others and spur them on the journey of life.

IJNIP. Amen